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How to love yourself? What does happiness mean to you? I think the quote from Owen Cambell Jr. answered these questions to me. “Happiness means loving yourself and being less concerned with the approval of others.” 

When I was young, I worried about how people think about me sometimes. I didn’t like to say “no” to people when they asked me for help even though I knew I was so busy and didn’t have the time to do it.  I wanted to please everyone. I wanted to make things perfect. However, I did feel tired and depressed while trying to be perfect for others. I realized that was not a real me. I wore a mask, a shield to protect myself in my social life. I knew I have to change, especially after I became a mom,

One time my husband shared what he heard from the radio with me. It talked about a research that shows even though parents send their kids to the different schools and different environments, the kids would still grow up most likely to be like their parents. I want my kids to have confidence and be carefree to be themselves. I knew what I said, what I thought, my attitude and behavior would have big impact on them. In order to set up a good example to them, I knew I need to take off my mask, to be a real me because I am not perfect. After I realized that and did that, I do feel happy and free.

Loving myself is still a learning process to me. I have to say that I do learn a lot from my husband and my boys. They let me know I need to love myself, then I can be happy to help people and share love with people. They do complete me.

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Love, Joling



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20 thoughts on “LOVING YOURSELF!”

  1. I love your floral dress! I didn’t like to say no to people as well… It turned out that I ended up having to do a lot more things when I didn’t really need to and the stress wasn’t worth it. I agree that the kids somehow do turn up like their parents even though they’re raised in different environments. They set the example after all. I am sure you will be a great example for your boys!

    1. Thank you so much for reading my post, Nancy!
      We all need to learn how to say no and know what is our priority.
      Although I am a mom, I do learn a lot from my kids.
      Thank you so much for the positive comment and encouragement.

      Love, Joling

  2. This is a beautiful post! Loving yourself is actually a lot harder than it sounds sometimes, and I’m also trying to be more accepting of myself, so that I can love and care for others better. Thanks for stopping by my blog 🙂

    1. Thanks for reading my post and the comment!
      Totally agree with you. I am still learning, too.

      Love, Joling

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