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LOVING YOURSELF!

How to love yourself? What does happiness mean to you? I think the quote from Owen Cambell Jr. answered these questions to me. “Happiness means loving yourself and being less concerned with the approval of others.” 

When I was young, I worried about how people think about me sometimes. I didn’t like to say “no” to people when they asked me for help even though I knew I was so busy and didn’t have the time to do it.  I wanted to please everyone. I wanted to make things perfect. However, I did feel tired and depressed while trying to be perfect for others. I realized that was not a real me. I wore a mask, a shield to protect myself in my social life. I knew I have to change, especially after I became a mom,

One time my husband shared what he heard from the radio with me. It talked about a research that shows even though parents send their kids to the different schools and different environments, the kids would still grow up most likely to be like their parents. I want my kids to have confidence and be carefree to be themselves. I knew what I said, what I thought, my attitude and behavior would have big impact on them. In order to set up a good example to them, I knew I need to take off my mask, to be a real me because I am not perfect. After I realized that and did that, I do feel happy and free.

Loving myself is still a learning process to me. I have to say that I do learn a lot from my husband and my boys. They let me know I need to love myself, then I can be happy to help people and share love with people. They do complete me.

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Love, Joling

 

 

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20 thoughts on “LOVING YOURSELF!”

  1. I love your floral dress! I didn’t like to say no to people as well… It turned out that I ended up having to do a lot more things when I didn’t really need to and the stress wasn’t worth it. I agree that the kids somehow do turn up like their parents even though they’re raised in different environments. They set the example after all. I am sure you will be a great example for your boys!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading my post, Nancy!
      We all need to learn how to say no and know what is our priority.
      Although I am a mom, I do learn a lot from my kids.
      Thank you so much for the positive comment and encouragement.

      Love, Joling

  2. This is a beautiful post! Loving yourself is actually a lot harder than it sounds sometimes, and I’m also trying to be more accepting of myself, so that I can love and care for others better. Thanks for stopping by my blog 🙂

    1. Thanks for reading my post and the comment!
      Totally agree with you. I am still learning, too.

      Love, Joling

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